Tips for a good conversation
Talking about your choice in the Donor Register? These tips might be able to help you.
Discussing your choice in the Donor Register with your loved ones is important. This way, they know what you want if it ever becomes necessary. But having such a conversation is not always easy. It can feel nerve-wracking or sad. Still, it helps to be open and talk together. Below you will find tips to make the conversation a little easier.
Tips for a good conversation about your choice in the Donor Register:
- Choose a quiet moment
Talk about it when you both have time. For example, during a walk, while cooking, or in the car. That often makes the conversation feel a bit easier. - Explain why you think it is important to talk about this
Explain why you want to share your choice. For example: 'I want you to know what I filled in in the Donor Register. That way, you won't have to doubt or be shocked later if you hear my choice.' - Be open about your choice and why you chose it
Tell them what you filled in in the Donor Register. And why you chose that. - Listen to the other person as well
Perhaps your family member or partner still has questions. Or perhaps they are doubting donation themselves. Listen calmly and without judgment. - Give space for feelings
Talking about donation is also about life and death. That can feel sad or nerve-wracking. Give each other space and try not to judge.
Opening sentences and questions
Do you find it difficult to start the conversation? A handy opening sentence might help you. Or start the conversation with a question, so you immediately show that you are open to someone else's opinion.
- ‘I recently updated my choice in the Donor Register. Have you ever thought about that?’
- 'It feels like an important topic, yet we don't talk about it often. Shall we talk about organ donation for a bit?’
- ‘Suppose something happens to me, then I want you to know what my wish is. That is why I wanted to talk about the Donor Register.’
- ‘Perhaps not the most pleasant topic, but have you ever looked into the Donor Register?’
- ‘I recently read something about organ donation, which made me think about my choice in the Donor Register. Would you like to know where I stand?’
Do you have any questions yourself about your choice in the Donor Register?Then check our frequently asked questions.